Ego Traps

If you think is more "spiritual" to ride a bike to work or use public transportation, but then find yourself judging anyone who drives a car, you're in an ego trap.

If you think is more "spiritual" to stop watching television because it rots your brain, but then find yourself judging those who still watch TV, you're in an ego trap.

If you think is more "spiritual" to listen to classical music or soothing nature sounds, but then find yourself judging those who listen to mainstream or pop music, you're in an ego trap.

If you think is more "spiritual" to do yoga, become a vegan, buy organic, meditate, wear hippie / thrift shop clothing, read enlightened spiritual books, then you judge anyone who doesn't do those things, you're in an ego trap.

Always be aware of the feeling of superiority. Self-righteous superiority is your biggest clue that you are in an ego trap. The ego loves to sneak in the back door. It will take a noble idea, like starting up yoga, and then twist it to serve its own ends by making you feel superior to others; you will start to look down on those who are not following your righteous "spiritual" path. Superiority, judgement, and condemnation. That is the ego trap.

Trust Your Instincts

"There will be a few times in life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. When that happens, you do it. Listens to your instincts and ignore everything else. Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it." 

- Judith Mcnaught

Letter to her: 3

Today was a really hard day for me, Moms! All I could think about was you and how much I wish you were here to hold me. I wish you were still here, so I could hug and kiss you and tell how much you are loved. I though you would always be here for me and continue to guide me. I never realized how lost I would be without you. I miss you so much, no one even knows what I would give for just one touch. Why does everyone else get to have their moms near. Do they know I'd give anything to have my mother here? I'm sad and lost mom will you help me find my way? Will you get rid of the tears I cry each day? I know the answer and the answer is no cause for me to move on I have to let you go.

I love you xx

Letter to her: 2

Hi, mom! is everything good there? i hope so. things are getting worse by the way, am screwed. paps told me that he wanna have another marriage. well, it's not a big deal for me and Putri actually, he can goes with his own way if he wants, with or without him by our side, life goes on. am jussstttt thinking that i'll be overlapped. you know, i still have to be responsible with my college thingy. besides that, there's no one who i can put my trust with. but thanks God i have your sisters, your whole family, they're blessed people. so, what d'you think? is it possible for me and Putri to live by ourselves? i don't think Putri wanna live with anybody else, and it's quite hard to have another adaptation i guess. i know God has a plan for us, therefore He puts us in these tough situations, right mom? and am sure you'll be here, with me and Putri. okay then, that's all from me. me miss you a lot mom. love you never ends.

Life Lessons. Better if you learn it.

• When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always what they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know what is in their hearts. Remove your own masks to let people know who you really are.
• When someone steals from you it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have. You never know when you might lose it. Never take your friends or family for granted, because today and sometimes only this very moment is the only guarantee you may have.
• When someone inflicts injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a very fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best as you can, it’s the one thing that you are sure to have forever.
• When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, do not judge them by how they look or act, instead base it on the contents of what is in their hearts.
• When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don’t turn your back on love, because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings you will make up for all of your past hurts. Times a thousand fold.
• When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is often the most difficult and painful of life’s experiences, but it is also the most courageous thing a person can do.
• When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is man’s greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptations. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted.
• When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities.
• When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for their imperfections over which they have no control.
• When someone loves us, it teaches us love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, acceptance, and all of these can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused.
• When you enter someone’s life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have resulted in more loving or more hurting? More comfort or more pain? More joy or more sadness? Each one of us has the power over the balance of the love in the world. Use it wisely!

Letter to her: 1

everything seems goes wrong lately, mom. am overlapping, am messed up. i don't know what kind of life it is. life is hard when you were here, but harder when you weren't here. i need you to share what's goin' on these days. honestly, i haven't find someone who can change your position yet (in that case), maybe i can't, neither the relatives nor dad. you know him, don't you? he is not such a great one to change your position in any kind of condition and situation. time destroys all things, mom. the only person who always be here for me, the only person who you gave your trust to take care of me has gone. am done with him, you know it, right? well, am kinda overwhelmed with my things, friends' stuff, love life's stuffs, college's stuff, and house's stuff including dad and Putri. am trying to solve it one by one, as hard as i can. you r the one who taught me how to deal with life thingy. i feel like am in an emergency to meet you, like we used to but seems like i lost my track. well, anyway, Putri is good. she's really a proud daughter, isn't she? her grades is gratifying. and the good news is we are in a progress to minimize our quarrels. and dad? he is still the same one in different situation. and so sorry i can't take care your plants mom, several of them r withered, and so sorry i haven't tidy your room up yet. because i have to deal with my assignments :(

hope He gives you a lot of bundles of joy, mom. make sure you help me to find the "tracks" that i told you above. i love you never end. 

with kisses, hugs, and prays

yours,

Frida